Did you know that research has proven that being consciously grateful for a few things each day literally increases our happiness?
Doing gratitude your way
You can do it in whatever way suits you!
Go for a walk and reflect on the things you can see that you’re grateful for. Pray, and express thanks. Meditate and have a time of gratitude. Keep a good old gratitude journal. (That once kept me going through at least one year of a bad marriage).
That’s it, really.
How’s your mood? Feeling a bit low?
Count some blessings. Or some good things.
Find some beauty. Look around at the things you’re glad to have in your life.
It won’t fix everything.
But it’ll help.
I’m NOT just fucking lucky
People think I’m just living a blessed
life. Lucky. Fortunate. And I am, but it’s also a HUGE amount to do with my
We live in a world that tells us we’ll be happy WHEN.
When you get that job.
Actually research tells us it’s the exact opposite:
I know SO MANY AMAZING WRITERS. They’re all
working as teachers or librarians or truck drivers or caregivers. Because they
have a kind of writing they want to do, and they don’t know how to monetise
Do you know how many of those things I got paid to do? Let’s see… About NONE.
Brand yourself, and build a website
Do you know one of the easiest and fastest ways to establish credibility as a professional anything? A brand and a website!
So that if people search for you, they find you. And what they find needs to be THE SHIT. It needs to scream I KNOW MY STUFF. I know what I’m doing. Been there, done that. It needs to be very confident and matter of fact – here’s what I do. Here’s who I’ve done it for. Here’s where you can see what I do. And here’s what I charge.
I’m not saying once you build a website the
work will start pouring in. There’s more to do – SEO, advertising, developing
But the FIRST, FASTEST, and EASIEST thing you can do to start establishing yourself as a freelancer is to make sure that once people hear about you, when they search for you online (because they will), that what they find reinforces EVERYTHING about your ability, experience, and professionalism.
One last piece of advice
(Oh and that website? You know how you’re a writer and you love words? Don’t write too much on your website. Make it short and punchy. Because you’re not writing this thing for you. You’re writing it for potential clients. And they’re busy. Don’t write too much on the website, duh!)
It was high summer and on that day it was raining.
I’d been revelling every day in the heat. The sunshine. The creek, the beach.
I love warm nights sleeping with just a sheet and cool mornings on the deck when you know there’s only a limited time before the heat and humidity take over again.
I love putting a couch and table or hammock or mattress under the trees in the afternoon when the house is simply too hot to stay in.
So when I woke up that day and the air was
cooler and the sky was grey and it felt different, it wasn’t long before
the first raindrops tapped loudly on the tin roof.
I frikn love that sound.
I love that it means today we stay inside and cook and nap and play cards (like the one card where everyone’s a monkey and we all fling poo at each other. Or Kittens in a blenderwhere you have to save your kittens and blend everyone else’s. You’re welcome).
I LOVE variety.
I can revel in the new, the different, in change.
Do you revel, or complain?
My teenagers, on the other hand, can always find something to complain about.
It’s too hot. It’s too muddy. It’s too windy. It’s too quiet.
I empathise, because don’t we all feel that way sometimes?
And I can sure as hell remember being a moody, sulky teenager. I have a picture of me sulking at Disneyland to prove it.
But if we want to be happy, we have to find reasons to be happy.
Had a car accident and wrote off your car? At least everyone’s ok.
Spent $10K building a course that sold nothing when you launched it? At least the work has been done – you never need to build that course again. It’s there now, you just have to get it to the right people.
Yelled at my kids? I can be grateful that I’m big enough to apologise later and to try not to do it again.
If you want to be happier, find reasons to make you happy.
What won’t happiness do?
It won’t remove the bad, the hardships, the pain, the challenges.